Query by genuine girls battle on!: why do men and women on right here presume that they ‘fund’ a teenage being pregnant?
i am just intrigued why individuals presume this? i concur that a vast amount of teenage pregnancy’s are offered positive aspects- but not all! i really can’t recognize why so numerous people decide other folks situations without having figuring out all the information. when i utilized to perform total time (my husband now supports our household so i can elevate our 3 young children) i In no way walked prior a expecting teen and thought- i am spending for your infant. do you do this with every single expecting lady you see (as an intelligant female i realise that older/mature parents also declare positive aspects)? i respect everyone’s view on this, but i genuinely which people would be less judgemental- specifically like i say, teenagers aren’t the only one’s claiming positive aspects x many thanks all
EDIT: mini i am seeing you all above the show at the minute with the exact same remedy- go absent!!!!
EDIT 2: all i am attempting to say is that there is many myths bordering teenager dad and mom- the infant was unplanned, mother is pooorly educated and she is claiming each and every profit going. however mom who are somewhat older (allows say 25), these things are seldom presumed. people now are way too judgemental. to be honest i would relatively taxes went to these men and women than greedy politicians who get it to do up their 2nd property and claim from taxpayers
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Teenagers for the most element cannot fund their infants.
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AGREED!! I was a teen mom, and no one supported me or my child, I worked, paid taxes, paid child care, completed high school and went to college, the whole works, because that’s what you do. Teen pregnancy is here to stay, and putting down young women who make a poor choice, (not on their own mind you, it does take two) is not going to help the situation at all!!
I agree.
Teens do need alot of extra support, but doesn’t mean they are on benefits, people just assume its all the younger people on benefits, when a 30 year old mother could be on benefits,
People are too sterotypical these days and need to get their heads out of their arses.
I agree. I was 18 when I had my son and never claimed a thing. My partner supported us and still does now 7 years later. There are pure lazy bums that claim it and some that genuinely need it..
I don’t assume that at all if/when I see a pregnant teen.
I feel bad that a child is having a child and have to give up their youth for not using protection..I don’t judge.
But in all honesty, how many teenagers are able to provide for their children themselves….not many.
I was 20 when I had my 1st, I didn’t get any benefits other than WIC, I could have but I worked my butt off and provided for my child myself. Her father didn’t stick around. Wasn’t always easy but i am proud to say that I didn’t use or abuse the system.
Best of luck to you
Clearly my tax dollars don’t go to every teenager that gets pregnant. But sadly the statistics in the U.S. (not sure about Britain) say that a majority of teens mothers get some sort of financial aid from the government. So will I try not to judge it is difficult sometimes. My husband works 70 hours a week many weeks (no overtime pay). And for this a large part of our pay check goes to social programs. So it is completely impossible of me not to have some emotion when I see young pregnant woman. Especially those with multiple children.
I really try not to judge. I don’t know the situation. But sometimes I do think to myself “Great I love getting to pay for her choices” I shouldn’t but like I said it is tough to never think this way.
This reminds me of something my husband said the other day. I was telling him about a girl on y!answers that had pregnancy symptoms and didn’t realize she could be pregnant… he said she needed a pregnancy test and a dna test. I said why do you assume she needs a dna test? She could be married for all you know. Why assume the worst of everyone you meet/pass by/ or hear about?
I think it’s a learned habit! I think many people are taught that the only things that matter are the things that affect them. Some folks just have no compassion… no understanding of what it’s like to be any way except the way they are. Live and let live makes no sense to them. They think that everyone is wrong except them, every way is wrong except theirs. It’s called being self centered and closed minded.
If we would all just step outside of our selfish comfort zone where we “think” we know everything… we would find that very few things are just as we see them.
I am 19 and 39 weeks pregnant. My partner and i both worked full time (i am on maternity leave since 35 weeks) he now works full time to support me whilst my wages have gone down to maternity pay, we are not on any benefits whatsoever – we pay rent,gas,electric,tv license,phone&broadband,(not essential but hey!)car tax,insurance etc etc, and have bought everything for our baby – except some things from my mum, but we did not expect help. It is no-one elses fault that we have produced a child, so we worked to get the things we need. I hate it when people look at us (we look younger than 19&20) because i can see that they presume we are on benefits, live in a council house and watch jeremy kyle all day !! I think it is awful that people just presume that pregnant teenagers are all sroungers, i am not saying that some aren’t, because some really are and really do not think they should be at work and paying their way through life. But i also believe it is the governments fault for making it so easy to have a free life – i know plenty of teenagers with children who have been scrounging and have everything they need – i don’t feel they deserve this when people like me are paying their way through society. I do however think it’s awful to stereotype because every single case is different, and no-one knows the situation behind closed doors! I do not look at pregnant people and think ‘i’m paying your way’ but to be honest, i look at people in my town that i know are on benefits and sit at home all day smoking pot, and think ‘ggrrrr i’m paying your way!’
I don’t assume anything-I usually cannot guess a person’s age for one thing and you are right that many teens may never use help and many older parents do. I hope most people carefully consider getting pregnant and the implications, etc. but I don’t begrudge my tax dollars paying for a baby who is a total innocent regardless. Besides you never know someone’s life story-maybe they saved and planned for a child at then lost their job or insurance and had no choice but to get help despite best efforts-its just not my place to make assumptions.
i don’t and my family are on benefits due to being a carer but i can understand where you are coming from if as mums and dads we were more open about sex and everything to do with sex we hopefully wouldn’t have as many teenage/ single mums all my children know more than i do about sex of which i ha vent got a problem we talk about it i give them advice if they ask unfortunately all families aren’t like this. prevention education and protection regarding sex is ideal but as we don’t live in a ideal world we do our best if it goes pear shaped we are there to support them that’s all we can do children don’t come with a manuel